Lucid Living

You say:

I wasn’t planning any, but now….

Great!

Absolutely normal. Just a fact. ‘My eyes have been opened.’

Oh yes. So many talk about it yet very few live it.

Radical, Revolutionary? No — just the facts.

If any organization was run with the same success rate as relationships it would not last very long would it. But we do not want to be alone. We want, want, want it to work. So we ignore the facts and figures. So how to share the information in a way so that at least a little will trickle in. Isn’t it all obvious? On one level or another, are not most men and women at war with each other most of the time? Long white dresses, wedding bells, smiles, and tears. Lovely. A day to enjoy. Truly. And what a farce! Divorce already on the horizon. Even before the honeymoon is over — when the chemicals have settled, both will often be wondering what they have done — having to live with this person “until death do us part.” And the divorce process! What was thought to be love is often recognised as hate. Two sides of the same thing. That is another level.

Please take this into consideration: Over the last forty years I have counselled many thousands about their relationships. People have told me what they have never told anyone — let alone their partners. Many, many women have told me that they knew it was not going to work — even before they walked down the isle. Let’s take a look at two aspects. They are related: Freedom and commitment. You know this — if you do not feel free then you feel restricted. Some people do like it that way. They are given their boundaries so do not have to make any decisions. Zombies. After trying every trick to control some couples even agree to a level of sexual freedom — anything except intercourse — and love. What a way to live — only loving one! The whole thing depends on what you want out of your life. If you want the absolute maximum potential that is possible for a human being then there is only one way — absolute freedom — to live your life, unconditionally, in each moment. It is called ‘living.’ Once you have matured, even a little, absolute freedom does not mean running around having sex with everyone to whom you feel some sort of attraction. When you are young is the time to do that. Get lots and lots of experience in your youth. Get that basic ‘impulse’ and the reaction to your restrictive upbringing out of your system. Commitment. An honest person cannot make an honest commitment. Not possible. They can make a promise in the moment for the moment, but not for the future. When you make a commitment you are basing your promise on the conditions of the moment — the situation; who you are; who they are. And things change. All the time. In fact one way of describing the process of life is change. Everything, every single thing is moving, changing, disintegrating, reforming. The rock looks very permanent — but it under an electron microscope and all there is to see is movement. So you change, they change, the situation changes — but you want to try and hold on to the past? Insane.

Oh there is so, so much more — and that will do for now.

Sending unbridled love…
Paul