Comments on: Fear http://www.lucid-living.org/read-write/fear/ Spiritual Awakening, Conscious Living Mon, 09 Jan 2012 20:25:42 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Why Am I Going « We Are Emptiness http://www.lucid-living.org/read-write/fear/#comment-173 Why Am I Going « We Are Emptiness Thu, 21 Oct 2010 22:15:04 +0000 http://sharing.lucid-living.org/?p=1619#comment-173 [...] I also wish to cultivate the ability to fully feel my emotions & not allow them to control me or stick with me. To be able to transmute them from negative to positive & to learn from them. The following post explains this well. My mind is accustomed to attempting to protect me (and others) from impending, traumatic feelings. Yet my truth says, the only way out is to go deeper in. The experience of allowing these waves of pain to hit me and keep moving through me rather than hit me and get stuck in my mind’s analysis machinery, is a great release, but it takes courage. To override the busy busy mind and say “Yes! I’m going to feel this fully, breathe, let it come, let it be felt!”, is, I believe, the most healing thing we can do for ourselves. Suddenly I realize what ‘embracing your fears, embracing your pain’ means. Part of me is waking up. Daring to feel discomfort is the same as self-love. It’s accepting all of me, even the scary chaotic parts. I am loving myself when I let myself feel what’s going on instead of escape. …Now, for the first time I’m feeling it, not running from it. No relationship or success in the world will ever remove it. – Jamie Catto [...] [...] I also wish to cultivate the ability to fully feel my emotions & not allow them to control me or stick with me. To be able to transmute them from negative to positive & to learn from them. The following post explains this well. My mind is accustomed to attempting to protect me (and others) from impending, traumatic feelings. Yet my truth says, the only way out is to go deeper in. The experience of allowing these waves of pain to hit me and keep moving through me rather than hit me and get stuck in my mind’s analysis machinery, is a great release, but it takes courage. To override the busy busy mind and say “Yes! I’m going to feel this fully, breathe, let it come, let it be felt!”, is, I believe, the most healing thing we can do for ourselves. Suddenly I realize what ‘embracing your fears, embracing your pain’ means. Part of me is waking up. Daring to feel discomfort is the same as self-love. It’s accepting all of me, even the scary chaotic parts. I am loving myself when I let myself feel what’s going on instead of escape. …Now, for the first time I’m feeling it, not running from it. No relationship or success in the world will ever remove it. – Jamie Catto [...]

]]> By: Anna http://www.lucid-living.org/read-write/fear/#comment-172 Anna Sun, 27 Jun 2010 11:59:34 +0000 http://sharing.lucid-living.org/?p=1619#comment-172 Thanks for writing Jamie. You speak for me too - I am a 1-on-1 relationship person but with willingness to admit attractions and (at least a conscious) impulse to embrace the fact that we don't know what will happen tomorrow. There's always the possibility I or he might fall in love with someone else at any moment. This sounds like an amazing and rich experience... you have opened, are learning, keep on seeing, keep on opening. I also say stay vigilant... Watch for the places where you don't love yourself in this new, fresh situation with your (super gorgeous) London girlfriend. If you go through all of this and TRULY know you're a 1-on-1 man (not from fear but from a place of deep honesty), then staying in this situation, would be pretty self-harming. I get the feeling your undecided and I your passion for seeing what's next and feeling EVERYTHING in the process makes me smile. I feel excited about knowing you as it all unfolds. Enjoy!! xxx Thanks for writing Jamie. You speak for me too – I am a 1-on-1 relationship person but with willingness to admit attractions and (at least a conscious) impulse to embrace the fact that we don’t know what will happen tomorrow. There’s always the possibility I or he might fall in love with someone else at any moment.

This sounds like an amazing and rich experience… you have opened, are learning, keep on seeing, keep on opening. I also say stay vigilant… Watch for the places where you don’t love yourself in this new, fresh situation with your (super gorgeous) London girlfriend. If you go through all of this and TRULY know you’re a 1-on-1 man (not from fear but from a place of deep honesty), then staying in this situation, would be pretty self-harming.

I get the feeling your undecided and I your passion for seeing what’s next and feeling EVERYTHING in the process makes me smile. I feel excited about knowing you as it all unfolds. Enjoy!! xxx

]]> By: starrynightcoach http://www.lucid-living.org/read-write/fear/#comment-171 starrynightcoach Fri, 25 Jun 2010 22:25:46 +0000 http://sharing.lucid-living.org/?p=1619#comment-171 That sounds like a painful place you're emerging from, thank you for sharing your vulnerability. That sounds like a painful place you’re emerging from, thank you for sharing your vulnerability.

]]> By: Chris http://www.lucid-living.org/read-write/fear/#comment-170 Chris Fri, 18 Jun 2010 08:23:47 +0000 http://sharing.lucid-living.org/?p=1619#comment-170 Dear Jamie, There is a heartbreaking undercurrent to your story and I would love to find a place where I can support you in some way. I speak as a man who's wife fell in love with another man and as a man who treats his rampant libido like a shepherd treats sheep. As a son and a father and a brother I fear for your children and for the child inside yourself and your wife and your lovers. If we took away the names and the shapes we could look at your kids as a physical manifestation of your heart, out there and vulnerable and scared and confused. What is going on inside for you is being played out by them. What is not clear is what you want and that is the question I would be asking my own heart. Beyond sex and excitement and freedom and anger and resentment might be a surprising answer. I have only seen you twice but that is more than enough to know that you are a good man struggling with pain from circumstances and responsibility. The right thing for you now is the right thing and your heart will know what that is, your ego and libido won't. The great saint Nisargadatta said 'you are neither the man nor the wife, you are the love between them' x Dear Jamie,
There is a heartbreaking undercurrent to your story and I would love to find a place where I can support you in some way. I speak as a man who’s wife fell in love with another man and as a man who treats his rampant libido like a shepherd treats sheep.
As a son and a father and a brother I fear for your children and for the child inside yourself and your wife and your lovers. If we took away the names and the shapes we could look at your kids as a physical manifestation of your heart, out there and vulnerable and scared and confused. What is going on inside for you is being played out by them.
What is not clear is what you want and that is the question I would be asking my own heart. Beyond sex and excitement and freedom and anger and resentment might be a surprising answer. I have only seen you twice but that is more than enough to know that you are a good man struggling with pain from circumstances and responsibility.
The right thing for you now is the right thing and your heart will know what that is, your ego and libido won’t.
The great saint Nisargadatta said ‘you are neither the man nor the wife, you are the love between them’
x

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